28 June 2010

I Will Make It Up To You

I took Benji to a new babysitter this morning.  Everything seemed okay; I visited them last week and we worked out all the details.  She made it sound like he wouldn't be a problem, and honestly--he's a pretty chill kid.  I dropped him off about 6:15 a.m.  So I was working at Riverton--a very nice day of ENT with Dr. Dahl, and between cases, my boss comes in with a message for me.  "Call this number about child care."  I check my cell phone.  3 new messages, 3 missed calls.  At least 3 pages.  Crap.

Text Message 1 (7:52 a.m.): "We tried to take his coat off and he started kicking.  I'm sorry, but I have infants around and it won't work."

Text Message 2 (7:52 a.m.): "I have a feeling this isn't going to work, he hasn't stopped crying, won't listen, & I won't be able to watch him with the other kids I have."

Text Page (8:59 a.m.):  I need ur son picked up asap.  I have tried every possible way to get ahold of u.  His behavior is unacceptable for my care."

Text Message 3 (10:34 a.m.): "I need someone to come pick your son up in the next 30 minutes!"

My heart sank.  What am I supposed to do?  I get off work at 3pm, and I told her I'd be there early (2:30pm or so).  Luckily things are low-key enough at Riverton that my boss let me leave.  We had an extra nurse on hand and only a couple of cases left, so I took off.  I feel so guilty about leaving my sweet little man with them.  I feel bad for the babysitter, who doesn't know how to deal with him, and for the other kids who may have been neglected because of his behavior.

So I took him home and cuddled with him and gave him chocolate milk and apple juice and let him watch t.v., and now he's taking a nap.  I still feel incredibly guilty about putting him through that ordeal at all.  I know he does better with a routine, and I totally killed that this morning with a new place, lots of new faces, etc.  It doesn't help that he woke himself up way early this morning (like 4:30-ish) and he was probably hungry and grumpy.  Bad combination.

I called my old babysitter and asked her if she could take us back.  She can (thankfully), but we were looking for someone else because she is kind-of expensive.  Even so, Benji knows her and she's very nice, and I really don't want to do that to him again.  Poor little guy.



I haven't posted any new pictures here for a while; I have put a few up on my photography blog, but not much of the family.  Here are a few from Father's Day weekend.  I didn't get many spectacular ones of the Phoebster's birthday, and I didn't have my camera at all for Miss Lily's, so sorry--this is what you get.

My cute Mom and my Lily-Bug

I couldn't believe the huge smooch Phoebe planted on Lex!

Lily applying her chapstick sparingly.

BFFs Benji & Noah.  Guess who's in charge.

I love the way the water turned out in this.  Hooray for the DSLR!

Cute Sarah Banana
Sarah probably won't appreciate this one very much.  It's at a rather unflattering angle, but I like it.  Yes, it's pretty Picniked, but maybe that way Sarah won't be too mad at me for posting it.  I love it--Sarah has such a fantastic smile, I had to share.

Et puis voilà quoi.

8 comments:

Lexy said...

I LOVE the pics! Your camera takes some nice pics! I love the kisses one and the water! those are awesome!

something very bright said...

Poor Benji! That is a lot of change for one day. But two hours is a short amount of time for the babysitter to decide she can't have Benji at all.

Rebecca said...

So sorry about Benny. You know, we did daycare with Ella for a while, and it wasn't easy -first days, especially. You have a good attitude about it though, and kids are tougher than you think they are. I'm sure he's already gotten over it. :)

Camie said...

Wow, you have an amazing attitude about the whole thing! I think I would have flown off the handle with the babysitter for losing her patience with a child after such a short amount of time, especially if it had been my own child. Way to keep in under control!

Jon & Jen said...

Oh my goodness. My heart just breaks for you. Switching daycares is seriously one of the worst things ever. When we switched Addy from my friend and mother's home to an actual daycare, I was a complete wreck. It is so hard. I'm glad your old babysitter was able to take him back. For us, I finally decided that the extra money was worth it for the peace of mind. Hang in there girl. I'm glad you were able to come home and cuddle the poor little guy.

Rachael said...

What a nightmare! Poor Benji and POOR MOMMY!!! Sometimes I swear as mom's we are so much more traumatized over some things than the kids are!

(And I LOVE the pictures!)

Alicia said...

Your blog is so beautiful!

The daycare issue sounds so hard... poor little guy. And maybe this is missing the point entirely, but why couldn't he just keep his coat on? Would the world end?

I hope things work out for you guys!! You'll have to give us an update!

Shelly said...

I had and experience with Frank a few years ago that was almost identical. I think it's more the babysitter than the child... Babysitters should know the first few days are rough, not give up after 2 hours. I'm sure you'll get everything figured out. Dealing with daycare issues is never fun.